Attachment, abandonment, and being a pastor’s spouse in the time of Covid

There's a lot swimming around in my brain right now, and for some reason it kind of came to a head last night as I tried to drift off to sleep. Isn't that always the way? For those of you who don't know me personally, I'm married to a Lutheran (ELCA) pastor. He serves a… Continue reading Attachment, abandonment, and being a pastor’s spouse in the time of Covid

And So It Flows…

Hmm. The Universe apparently knew something when it dropped the notion of "flow" into my life for 2022. Here we are, 11 days in to the new year, and instead of boarding a plane to go to Florida tonight, we're a household in quarantine after one of the kids became symptomatic and tested positive for… Continue reading And So It Flows…

Feeling out “FLOW”

It's that time again - a new year! And though I'm the same person I was last year, with much of the same circumstances and problems as I had last year, I seem to be incapable of abandoning hope for new things and growth in the new year that lays stretched out before me. I'm… Continue reading Feeling out “FLOW”

It’s the most (fill in the blank) time of the year

There's no doubt that the close of the year can be wonderful and festive, but for so many people - and for so many reasons - it can also be stressful, lonely, conflicting, and a huge exercise in coping with expectations versus reality. I just made a list with 80+ names of people of whom… Continue reading It’s the most (fill in the blank) time of the year

Reel life sobriety

Have you succumbed to clicking on those "reels" that Facebook is now littered with? I totally have. And the more I let curiosity get the best of me, the more FB seems to offer me. There are dad jokes, dance moves, moments of mom life, make up tutorials, cute kids being cute, lavish lifestyle flexes...… Continue reading Reel life sobriety

Carrying what’s heavy

I've been away for a little over a month, and have been itching to get back into a writing routine. My absence has been for good reasons, mostly - loved ones visiting us, busy days with the kids, and even getting away for a few days here and there. As the school year looms (yeah,… Continue reading Carrying what’s heavy

Say YES to the Mess!

Over quarantine and this last year+ of "pandemicness", our normally messy house has had the chance to become RIDICULOUSLY entrenched in mess. Clutter that would normally get cleared after a few days has evolved into seemingly semi-permanent structures and piles. (Only "semi" because it occasionally falls over if it gets high enough.) A messy side-of-my… Continue reading Say YES to the Mess!

I want to get away…

I want to flyyyyyyy awaaaay... yeah yeah yeah-yeah! Ear worm: achieved. All right. Now that I've blessed your day with that little ear worm, I will tell you it's been one of my resounding reactions that has popped up over this last year of quarantining/sheltering-in-place/ limiting my outings/adjusting to pandemic life. Like, I've gotten used… Continue reading I want to get away…

“What are you comfortable with?”

I have asked this kind of question before. It sounds like a polite, intentional question. A helpful question for gauging how to proceed in a situation. One that opens up conversation, instead of shutting it down. A question of consent. And I think it generally is. But I asked it last summer, tired of quarantining… Continue reading “What are you comfortable with?”