Lent makes more sense. And this year, more than any recent one, I'm feeling compelled- pulled, really - to find a way explore and enter the next 40 days. When I was a kid, it was about "giving up" something - tv, chocolate, fighting with siblings. As I got older, it was about "adding" something… Continue reading When the world feels heavy….
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Attachment, abandonment, and being a pastor’s spouse in the time of Covid
There's a lot swimming around in my brain right now, and for some reason it kind of came to a head last night as I tried to drift off to sleep. Isn't that always the way? For those of you who don't know me personally, I'm married to a Lutheran (ELCA) pastor. He serves a… Continue reading Attachment, abandonment, and being a pastor’s spouse in the time of Covid
When Avoidance Ties You up in Knots
We all have things we avoid, or resist, in hopes that if we just ignore the issue for long enough that... it might just go away. Big things or small things. We just seem hardwired from a young age to avoid the hard and uncomfortable things that would work out much better if they were… Continue reading When Avoidance Ties You up in Knots
It’s the most (fill in the blank) time of the year
There's no doubt that the close of the year can be wonderful and festive, but for so many people - and for so many reasons - it can also be stressful, lonely, conflicting, and a huge exercise in coping with expectations versus reality. I just made a list with 80+ names of people of whom… Continue reading It’s the most (fill in the blank) time of the year
Stronger than Yesterday
Back in the beginning of 2021 (which somehow simultaneously feels like a minute ago AND a million years ago), I was sitting with the discomfort of a new year that was coupled with uncertainty about direction and vision. Because that direction and vision normally appeared to me organically, and maybe the whole pandemic thing was… Continue reading Stronger than Yesterday
When No One’s Laughing Anymore
I came across a post about comedian John Mulaney, and the headline was about him and his girlfriend expecting a child. NBCU photo bank via Getty Images What was more interesting to me, though, was the video of his actual interview with late night host, and his close friend, Seth Myers. You see, while the… Continue reading When No One’s Laughing Anymore
Words.. talking.. hard…
One of the most uncomfortable things for me is a necessary, but hard, conversation. Emotions might run high, clarity might be difficult, there's no guarantee it will "fix" things, and at the close, we still might be misunderstood. I appreciate this wisdom and thought it was worth sharing!
Say YES to the Mess!
Over quarantine and this last year+ of "pandemicness", our normally messy house has had the chance to become RIDICULOUSLY entrenched in mess. Clutter that would normally get cleared after a few days has evolved into seemingly semi-permanent structures and piles. (Only "semi" because it occasionally falls over if it gets high enough.) A messy side-of-my… Continue reading Say YES to the Mess!
alive. awake. uncomfortable. 